[miso]

After carefully reading your opening post, there seems to be an underlying condition (or two), that's triggering Instability with your emotions.

Has your psychologist performed tests for clinical depression, and/or any form of anxiety disorder? It's all well and good to suggest what we believe will Improve your well-being, but unless the root of the cause Is Identified, It can be a difficult process to overcome the said Issues.

i did have tests for anxiety disorder and clinical depression, im not anxious, but i just say im not able to do something or even me thinking that it woudnt change anything if it was me, so i just leave it

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I reccomend

Doing some work outs, jogging in place, sit ups, push ups.

Listen to some long audio-books, such as Lord of the Rings, Bible Audiobook, or Nature Documentaries.

If you actually want to improve your situation I suggest you research cures to combat the COVID19 such as find anivirals or antibodies effective against SARS-Cov and how to mass produce them.

i do not have enough space. i prefer going outside
researching infofmation about the pandemic isnt going to help much since it is becoming worst and worst in the uk

[Boudica]

After carefully reading your opening post, there seems to be an underlying condition (or two), that's triggering Instability with your emotions.

Has your psychologist performed tests for clinical depression, and/or any form of anxiety disorder? It's all well and good to suggest what we believe will Improve your well-being, but unless the root of the cause Is Identified, It can be a difficult process to overcome the said Issues.

i did have tests for anxiety disorder and clinical depression, im not anxious, but i just say im not able to do something or even me thinking that it woudnt change anything if it was me, so i just leave it

---

I reccomend

Doing some work outs, jogging in place, sit ups, push ups.

Listen to some long audio-books, such as Lord of the Rings, Bible Audiobook, or Nature Documentaries.

If you actually want to improve your situation I suggest you research cures to combat the COVID19 such as find anivirals or antibodies effective against SARS-Cov and how to mass produce them.

i do not have enough space. i prefer going outside
researching infofmation about the pandemic isnt going to help much since it is becoming worst and worst in the uk

I find it amusing that your reasoning for not researching cures, antivirals and antibodies, wasn't "I'm not a scientist and I don't have a multi-million pound lab", but that it's getting worse in the UK (PS it's actually just starting to turn in many parts, if you heard the governments announcements yesterday).

Of the suggestions on this thread, that was rather out there xD

[mothered]

i did have tests for anxiety disorder and clinical depression, im not anxious, but  i just say im not able to do something or even me thinking that it woudnt change anything if it was me, so i just leave it

It's good that you haven't been diagnosed with a depressive nor an anxiety disorder. That said, both conditions can be effectively treated with the right prescription medication.

I'm a lot older than yourself, and have been there and done that with life's ups and downs. I've applied myself to block all negativity, thus only focus on what I want to experience. Essentially, I've cut ties with problematic people and basically any entity that presents Itself In a pessimistic manner.

This may sound like the cliche of "easier said than done" but believe me, when you apply yourself, It's "easier done than said". You just simply need to change your way of thinking.

[Boudica]

i did have tests for anxiety disorder and clinical depression, im not anxious, but  i just say im not able to do something or even me thinking that it woudnt change anything if it was me, so i just leave it

It's good that you haven't been diagnosed with a depressive nor an anxiety disorder. That said, both conditions can be effectively treated with the right prescription medication.

I'm a lot older than yourself, and have been there and done that with life's ups and downs. I've applied myself to block all negativity, thus only focus on what I want to experience. Essentially, I've cut ties with problematic people and basically any entity that presents Itself In a pessimistic manner.

This may sound like the cliche of "easier said than done" but believe me, when you apply yourself, It's "easier done than said". You just simply need to change your way of thinking.

This is such good advice. I went through some terrible times during my undergraduate studies at University. My mental health, and therefore my grades, suffered. Once I completed my courses and moved away from some very toxic housemates, my entire outlook on life improved drastically.

[mothered]

i did have tests for anxiety disorder and clinical depression, im not anxious, but  i just say im not able to do something or even me thinking that it woudnt change anything if it was me, so i just leave it

It's good that you haven't been diagnosed with a depressive nor an anxiety disorder. That said, both conditions can be effectively treated with the right prescription medication.

I'm a lot older than yourself, and have been there and done that with life's ups and downs. I've applied myself to block all negativity, thus only focus on what I want to experience. Essentially, I've cut ties with problematic people and basically any entity that presents Itself In a pessimistic manner.

This may sound like the cliche of "easier said than done" but believe me, when you apply yourself, It's "easier done than said". You just simply need to change your way of thinking.

This is such good advice. I went through some terrible times during my undergraduate studies at University. My mental health, and therefore my grades, suffered. Once I completed my courses and moved away from some very toxic housemates, my entire outlook on life improved drastically.

I believe we've all experienced some sort of mental Instability, and It needs to be dealt with there and then before It becomes unmanageable. It's good to read you've taken a positive outlook on life.

Life's equation Is pretty simple- we're all accountable and responsible for our actions, Inclusive of how we "choose" to feel emotionally. For Instance, when you say "he stresses me out", It's more so "how you choose to deal with It", that determines whether It has an Impact on your mental state. Let It go and life goes on. Take It on board and It will dictate how you feel In a negative fashion.

[Boudica]

It's good that you haven't been diagnosed with a depressive nor an anxiety disorder. That said, both conditions can be effectively treated with the right prescription medication.

I'm a lot older than yourself, and have been there and done that with life's ups and downs. I've applied myself to block all negativity, thus only focus on what I want to experience. Essentially, I've cut ties with problematic people and basically any entity that presents Itself In a pessimistic manner.

This may sound like the cliche of "easier said than done" but believe me, when you apply yourself, It's "easier done than said". You just simply need to change your way of thinking.

This is such good advice. I went through some terrible times during my undergraduate studies at University. My mental health, and therefore my grades, suffered. Once I completed my courses and moved away from some very toxic housemates, my entire outlook on life improved drastically.

I believe we've all experienced some sort of mental Instability, and It needs to be dealt with there and then before It becomes unmanageable. It's good to read you've taken a positive outlook on life.

Life's equation Is pretty simple- we're all accountable and responsible for our actions, Inclusive of how we "choose" to feel emotionally. For Instance, when you say "he stresses me out", It's more so "how you choose to deal with It", that determines whether It has an Impact on your mental state. Let It go and life goes on. Take It on board and It will dictate how you feel In negative fashion.

Absolutely! Anyone has the power to say "I'm unhappy", but nothing will change until you take accountability for your health, both physically and mentally, and decide what YOU are going to do about it.

It was stressful breaking apart from the people I lived with, and it certainly ended in tears. However, for my own health, I had to follow through. I only wish I'd committed to that decision sooner.

[miso]

i did have tests for anxiety disorder and clinical depression, im not anxious, but  i just say im not able to do something or even me thinking that it woudnt change anything if it was me, so i just leave it

It's good that you haven't been diagnosed with a depressive nor an anxiety disorder. That said, both conditions can be effectively treated with the right prescription medication.

I'm a lot older than yourself, and have been there and done that with life's ups and downs. I've applied myself to block all negativity, thus only focus on what I want to experience. Essentially, I've cut ties with problematic people and basically any entity that presents Itself In a pessimistic manner.

This may sound like the cliche of "easier said than done" but believe me, when you apply yourself, It's "easier done than said". You just simply need to change your way of thinking.

i am depressive, just not anxious (forgot to precise)

[mothered]

i am depressive, just not anxious (forgot to precise)

Are you taking meds?

If not, they can significantly help with your condition.

[miso]

i am depressive, just not anxious (forgot to precise)

Are you taking meds?

If not, they can significantly help with your condition.

i don't take meds

[LawDogUSA]

Brother, just reading your initial post, do you realize how incredible you are? Man, you posess some excellent skills. There are some unique individuals on here, and you are one of them. Sometimes in life we have to step out of ourselves and look at us. I know you said you don't like yourself, even though I think there's much to like and be happy about. I think most of us can look at ourselves and not like a lot or something. There's nothing wrong with that, it's how we change, get better, grow, or just self analyze.

Now on to your doctor. Does that doctor help you? Do you feel better after speaking with them? It's important to find a mental health professional you are extremely comfortable with. It may take time to find someone.

And meds, it may be important to have a psychiatrist instead of a psychologist. The meds these days are awesome once you get dialed in. There's no shame in that.
Sounds like you're going to get ahold of your doctor. They can still help during this time and there's always other ways.

And props to you. You are able to identify and speak about the things that are on your mind. You are helping your own mental health. Your self help is outstanding. You use your mind a lot in what you do and like to do. You may need a break, adjustment, or rest. With what's going on, it may be you are using your mind more or "harder" than normal cause we are isolated. Rest that excellent mind of yours, and get some help from your doc. We are in a very unique situation.

People/society don't understand how important mental health is. It's changing, and society will get there. But who gives a rats ass about society, we have to take care of ourselves. We are the ones who do it and have to deal with it.

You are doing an excellent job. I think most people will tell you that they have 1 or 2 serious friends. But even then certain situations can make them shut their doors on you. It's hard. But look at the response you got on here. It's great advice, true advice and the people here care. Very hard to find that in the outside world, if at all. This is a great place, and I know you know this.

Sorry for the rant. I really do care bro, people here care too. PM me if you need anything. I do have a psy. degree, but used it in a different career. Anything I can do, let me know.

And props to all the great responses/posts.

I don't know why, but I laughed my ass off picturing "Mothered" going clubing and dancing. I would have paid to see that. Sorry, just picture you glued to a computer. For all I know you have as much rythm as you do computer skills.

With much love and respect,

G