[singlehandlogic]

I read a few lines and got the part I needed to know where this was going to go.

look. best advice I can give is... if anyone breaks up in a relationship and DOES NOT take a few years to themselves... then avoid anything more than friends. anytime someone bounces relationship to relationship, you are asking for trouble! I know this seems harsh, but its generally a rule of thumb to take a few to five years to yourself after a serious relationship.

If you are not the serious relationship kind of gal or guy, then fuck and have fun and go out and let go... if they come around again, hey, have fun, go out, be you, and then again, let go... dont hold on to someone who bounces around or cant figure things out or is in between relationships. You sound like a caring person, it was very thoughtful of the blanket. that is something I would do too.. so I know, you are the type to have your feelings hurt when they go back to the previous relation. thing is, to me, relationships are not just a physical connection, but more so a spiritual one. and when emotions, emotion means literally - to distrub in latin, are present, it can fuck everything up in your gut, and head... and not having a clean slate to start on is YOUR issue. you need to learn this, how to keep friends as friends and friends who could be more, have to reach a threshold and have already been a friend for about 5 - 7 years before considering getting together. that is just my opinion, but i take relationships seriously.

I was married once, in the Army, started too young. she was always unfaithful yet I am a one woman type of man... and one is enough! lol... anyway, she promised time and time again, and we got married and i trusted her, then she and i got pregnant together. we had a beautiful daughter. just over a year later she got pregnant again. well we were always having trust issues and I eventually had a dna test done and found out the worst possible. as you can imagine, the infidelity was the issue and the kids were not mine. I was fucking livid... and I left her even though it broke me. I have had a few gfs over the fifteen years since then, and never met a woman that would keep her word. I do have high expectations and I do expect respect and trust as that is what I gave! but I learned recently, about 8 years ago, another valuable lesson about self love. I do not need anyone to make me whole, complete, happy, or at peace... etc. I committed to myself and I refuse to go out with any woman to the point any feelings develop. no sex... no fun... it sux. but man, I cant tell you how much better I feel!!! I can wake up and I look forward to my day and I dont need anyone to make it better!

IF I find a woman and we talk, and it becomes a friendship, and Im open from the get go about this, there will be a few years of just that. friends... and no sex... I havent found one woman who wants to put any investment into a relationship. In 2015 I finished college for again for the third time, and took some different classes like bio psych, sociology, relationship psych, and I learned so many good and bad things about the word, relationship. women dont want a relationship most times. especially the young ones. up till around 30 years of age, woman dont actually mature completely. sure they start to mature sooner than males, but most women stay in this phase of experimentation and wont commit to a good man. simply because she does not know what she wants yet. this doenst mean she is like that, it just means statistically, she is more likely to still be in her learning phase of who she is and what she wants. men mature later still, around 35 ish... im just entering my 37th year here next month. and I see it all over, men being used as accessories. because they are nice. People accept the love they feel they deserve, so its up to YOU to decide what it is you want out of life and a partner. Its not always the case... sometimes people just click and hit it off from the get go.

Id focus on your career, and just keep EVERY woman as close as friends would. you will know when you meet the right one and you will know when SHE is ready for you to be her knight in shiny armor. it does not seem like your lady admirer knows yet what she wants and is just being pulled emotionally which means, bad for you because she will test out both... and you already said insecure. and with good reason mate! its not a bad thing like most women make it out to be. insecure because women usually give reasons to question their loyalty and trust... so listen to your heart and focus on what is in front of you. YOURSELF. you need to find you SOUL, mate... not your soulmate. hope that helps.