[Oni]

Competitions are usually no-gi, if im not mistaken.

BJJ academies are not Ram Ranch. Wrestling or Sumo might be more suited to your needs.

hehehe........ xD yes maybe.
another thing i just love about BJJ, is that you know that guy that used to get bullied and beat up everyday
when u were in school, now you can go to the BJJ tournament and watch him get beat up live for cash!
and youre like sitting there in the crowd, watching him wrestle, cheering for him. ^^

i think 'this guy' applies to lots of people who got bullied and started doing BJJ or MMA.

You're arguing that martial arts are gay, or the participants are victims of bullying. It makes sense that someone who's a victim would want to learn to defend themselves. I don't think that's the case for most participants, though.

For someone to lose a fight, someone else must win. People improve with adversity.