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RE: Do you want to be in a relationship? - gorbavid - 03-09-2022
In my personal (although not very full of events) experience, you don’t really “need” a relationship. Whenever you do, it isn’t probably going to turn out well. If you are staying with someone out of a simple need or because you don’t want to feel “alone”, you are very likely to live it the “wrong” way (provided there is a “right” way to live a relationship, since each one can be different from the others). In most cases, if you “need” a relationship you’re likely to learn something bad out of pain. And I say so because it happened to me.
RE: Do you want to be in a relationship? - xVita - 03-09-2022
(03-09-2022, 07:22 AM)gorbavid Wrote: In my personal (although not very full of events) experience, you don’t really “need” a relationship. Whenever you do, it isn’t probably going to turn out well. If you are staying with someone out of a simple need or because you don’t want to feel “alone”, you are very likely to live it the “wrong” way (provided there is a “right” way to live a relationship, since each one can be different from the others). In most cases, if you “need” a relationship you’re likely to learn something bad out of pain. And I say so because it happened to me.
Same happened to me till last month.
I was in a relationship for 3 years.
Now I'm living with my parents again and im really happy and focused on exams and on myself.
Realizing that I lived 3 years with her just for Not beeing alone.
Both are suferring but its better to late then never.
RE: Do you want to be in a relationship? - dirlisroy - 03-11-2022
(03-09-2022, 11:01 AM)xVita Wrote:Yes, i'm agree with you.(03-09-2022, 07:22 AM)gorbavid Wrote: In my personal (although not very full of events) experience, you don’t really “need” a relationship. Whenever you do, it isn’t probably going to turn out well. If you are staying with someone out of a simple need or because you don’t want to feel “alone”, you are very likely to live it the “wrong” way (provided there is a “right” way to live a relationship, since each one can be different from the others). In most cases, if you “need” a relationship you’re likely to learn something bad out of pain. And I say so because it happened to me.
Same happened to me till last month.
I was in a relationship for 3 years.
Now I'm living with my parents again and im really happy and focused on exams and on myself.
Realizing that I lived 3 years with her just for Not beeing alone.
Both are suferring but its better to late then never.
RE: Do you want to be in a relationship? - mothered - 03-11-2022
(03-09-2022, 11:01 AM)xVita Wrote: I was in a relationship for 3 years.I went through something similar for 10 years - a waste of a decade of my life.
Realizing that I lived 3 years with her just for Not beeing alone.
But In the end, I've come out better and stronger than ever.
RE: Do you want to be in a relationship? - Jiggly - 03-29-2022
(03-11-2022, 10:02 AM)mothered Wrote:(03-09-2022, 11:01 AM)xVita Wrote: I was in a relationship for 3 years.I went through something similar for 10 years - a waste of a decade of my life.
Realizing that I lived 3 years with her just for Not beeing alone.
But In the end, I've come out better and stronger than ever.
What more can you ask for from a tough moment in life?
RE: Do you want to be in a relationship? - Pomonlisan - 03-29-2022
(03-09-2022, 07:22 AM)gorbavid Wrote: In my personal (although not very full of events) experience, you don’t really “need” a relationship. Whenever you do, it isn’t probably going to turn out well. If you are staying with someone out of a simple need or because you don’t want to feel “alone”, you are very likely to live it the “wrong” way (provided there is a “right” way to live a relationship, since each one can be different from the others). In most cases, if you “need” a relationship you’re likely to learn something bad out of pain. And I say so because it happened to me.
I think this is a major reason for people who decide to get into relationships. because for me, i only prefer relationships over single life because of loneliness. but apart from that, being single is better. And if it's about making love, you can surely pay for that.
RE: Do you want to be in a relationship? - mothered - 03-30-2022
(03-29-2022, 08:28 PM)Jiggly Wrote:I absolutely agree.(03-11-2022, 10:02 AM)mothered Wrote:(03-09-2022, 11:01 AM)xVita Wrote: I was in a relationship for 3 years.I went through something similar for 10 years - a waste of a decade of my life.
Realizing that I lived 3 years with her just for Not beeing alone.
But In the end, I've come out better and stronger than ever.
What more can you ask for from a tough moment in life?
It had a huge Impact on my life, but I'm so glad It happened. I'm now the person I always was, but couldn't be at the time of the relationship.
RE: Do you want to be in a relationship? - Jiggly - 03-30-2022
(03-30-2022, 03:04 AM)mothered Wrote:(03-29-2022, 08:28 PM)Jiggly Wrote:I absolutely agree.(03-11-2022, 10:02 AM)mothered Wrote: I went through something similar for 10 years - a waste of a decade of my life.
But In the end, I've come out better and stronger than ever.
What more can you ask for from a tough moment in life?
It had a huge Impact on my life, but I'm so glad It happened. I'm now the person I always was, but couldn't be at the time of the relationship.
That sounds like a much more peaceful way to be.
RE: Do you want to be in a relationship? - mothered - 03-30-2022
(03-30-2022, 07:52 AM)Jiggly Wrote: That sounds like a much more peaceful way to be.It most certainly Is.
I do as I please and the only person I answer to, Is myself.
RE: Do you want to be in a relationship? - CharlieWex - 04-05-2022
Personally, I understand that relationships are a lot of work. I guess I wouldn't want to put too much effort into it.