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RE: What would you change about yourself? - Jiggly - 12-24-2023
(12-20-2023, 12:56 AM)nok32 Wrote:(12-18-2023, 12:39 AM)Jiggly Wrote:(12-07-2023, 07:46 PM)nok32 Wrote: I have never been a vain person, but as I get older my hair is thinning. Seriously considering getting a hair transplant soon, which feels crazy but also exciting.
There's a lot of stigma about getting "work done" or doing anything that isn't 100% natural. In my opinion, personal happiness is more important than someone else's opinion. If a hair transplant will help you feel more like yourself, do it! As long as you're making a healthy decision for yourself, I see no issues. Glad t hear you're excited & good luck!
Thanks, yeah there is especially stigma around men doing so, like it isn't masculine to be self-conscious about your appearance etc. I would like to see that change.
Unless that "self-consciousness" is over the tone of one's muscles or their height. And yet, there's entire industries (modelling, acting etc) centered around men's appearances. Newscasters wear light makeup even.
It's a peculiar hill for people to die on, and it has no roots in history either (where men's appearance, grooming and makeup were a standard of aristocracy). it's an entirely modern mindset that's developed, so I can see no reason why it couldn't be changed.
(12-20-2023, 01:24 AM)prettyandall Wrote: i guess im one of the few that has undergone plastic surgery, i got my eyes and nose done last year. now, what i'd change aboutt myself physically wouldnt just be a feature, but rather my entire face because theres a lot of people i prefer their face over mine. not that i hate myself, but just looking at it objectively
I think we all share that feeling to some extent or another right?
I do think it's also important to consider "why" we feel that way, and what the best course of action is for ourselves.
For example, I used to wish I had nicer eyebrows, but I worked out that I only felt that way because the people around me had nicer eyebrows and I was comparing myself to them constantly. I felt similarly about all parts of my physical self, especially over the things I couldn't control. I'd developed an unhealthy mindset, and no physical alterations were going to fix that for me as I would have fixed one thing, only to fixate on another. I decided against any permanent moves and focused on the root cause of that dissatisfaction: Insecurity because I sought validation from other people rather than myself. Cliche and cringe right?
Years on, I've learned to change that mindset. I do now wear makeup, but not to hide my bad features. I wear it because I like messing with eyeshadow colours. For me, that was the healthiest decision I made. For someone else, that might not be right.
(12-18-2023, 03:50 PM)WLS1010 Wrote: EVERYTHING. I'm too short. I hate that I have broad shoulders. No shape. I HATE my face. My jaw protrudes as far as my nose. Like a "monkey mouth" and it's all I can think about almost 24/7 bc I'm so self conscious. I hate my widows peak. My nose. My teeth. My smile is horrible and makes me look disgusting. I have the worst side profile I've ever seen. I give myself a 0/10 in complete honesty. Gonna work on my weight but I feel disgusting even at my lowest weight
Damn, I'm sorry to hear you're having such a rough time. Is there anything in particular you're comparing yourself to? It seems like quite an extensive list of things to dislike about yourself physically.
RE: What would you change about yourself? - Emilio - 12-28-2023
The way I deal with medium and long term relationships, I am a person who is easy for me to make friends, however, I can be so attached to them but from one day to another I can lose interest in them, leading us to distance ourselves, I think this always happens to me unconsciously with my friendships.
RE: What would you change about yourself? - Yeahmaybe - 12-28-2023
Currently I posses no teleport abilities so I'd be happy changing that about myself I guess
RE: What would you change about yourself? - Jiggly - 01-03-2024
(12-28-2023, 10:41 AM)Emilio Wrote: The way I deal with medium and long term relationships, I am a person who is easy for me to make friends, however, I can be so attached to them but from one day to another I can lose interest in them, leading us to distance ourselves, I think this always happens to me unconsciously with my friendships.
So do you think it's more of a general attachment issue? Like being too attached, or not attached enough?
Or do you think it's more to do with alignment of interests?
(12-28-2023, 09:42 PM)Yeahmaybe Wrote: Currently I posses no teleport abilities so I'd be happy changing that about myself I guess
I like your thinking.
RE: What would you change about yourself? - WLS1010 - 01-19-2024
EVERYTHING. I'm too short. I hate that I have broad shoulders. No shape. I HATE my face. My jaw protrudes as far as my nose. Like a "monkey mouth" and it's all I can think about almost 24/7 bc I'm so self conscious. I hate my widows peak. My nose. My teeth. My smile is horrible and makes me look disgusting. I have the worst side profile I've ever seen. I give myself a 0/10 in complete honesty. Gonna work on my weight but I feel disgusting even at my lowest weight
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Damn, I'm sorry to hear you're having such a rough time. Is there anything in particular you're comparing yourself to? It seems like quite an extensive list of things to dislike about yourself physically.
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I just know I'm not attractive and there's nothing I can do about it since I'm too poor for surgery. There's simply no feature I like and can't lie to myself about it. That's why I've been getting lots of cool tattoos and dying my hair to at least have something I like- but I still know I'm ugly 😕
RE: What would you change about yourself? - Grefunds - 01-30-2024
get some consistent sleep! hah yea im tired every day
RE: What would you change about yourself? - crazyco - 02-05-2024
my looks and my worth if i was better looking and had ore money then i get al the women/men
RE: What would you change about yourself? - Jiggly - 02-07-2024
(02-05-2024, 03:05 AM)crazyco Wrote: my looks and my worth if i was better looking and had ore money then i get al the women/men
I don't think you need either for a sustainable relationship, but I guess it depends on what you're looking for.
RE: What would you change about yourself? - zally - 02-12-2024
Surprisingly, probably nothing. Apparently I'm that overly nice soft cute loving person, and if that's the case, I think it should stay that way especially when being just myself.
RE: What would you change about yourself? - Jiggly - 02-15-2024
(02-12-2024, 03:09 PM)zally Wrote: Surprisingly, probably nothing. Apparently I'm that overly nice soft cute loving person, and if that's the case, I think it should stay that way especially when being just myself.
That's great to hear!