[phyrrus9]

So... this is pretty serious. My ex is now engaged. I'm not really upset, in fact, I wish nothing but the best for her. Somehow I still do feel like shit because this is the guy she was talking to while we were together... If you were here when I first joined, you remember me complaining about this same girl. Breaking up with her was the best thing that happened to me so it doesn't negatively affect me, but fuck, idk how it hit me like this :/ Like I knew it wouldn't go far with us, but to think I'm the guy that was minimizing it and she had another desperate fuck trying to ruin our relationship and now they're getting super serious. IDK WTF this thread is about. Just venting. I'll probs feel better soon.

Sometimes you just gotta vent. My first marriage ended similarly to this, but at the worse extreme. You get over it eventually, but don't kid yourself about it, it will drain you, just wade through it. We're here for you if you need anything man. With me, it didn't finally go away until I was in the position my ex wife was with me.

[Defeat]

Thanks a lot, I appreciate your words guys. I can't really talk to my friends about it because they know her and her family so I wouldn't want to put them in a weird position. She started talking to me and referring to me as a friend or something a few days ago. I personally didn't like it because she knows how it really it, but I also can't just make an unpleasant situation for our whole group just because of this. I am coping, but it's a process it seems

[Skullmeat]

Shes your ex. If you still care why did you leave her?

[mothered]

Shes your ex. If you still care why did you leave her?

I did something similar In my teens (and that was a very long time ago), whereby I terminated the relationship for what I thought, was all for the right reasons. When she actually married, I then realized I still had feelings for her.

As said, "you don't know love until you lose It". A lot (personally) has changed since then and I do not allow others to control my state of mind.

[Defeat]

Shes your ex. If you still care why did you leave her?

I'm not sure I understand your question. She's my ex, yes. I left her because she wasn't right for me. It's not that I care, but it's the fact I still have to see her that bothers me. I would have preferred to not know what's going on in her life after the breakup like my other past relationships. Regardless, I think anyone would feel slightly offended or some type of way that a relationship ends and their ex jumps into a relationship literally right after and then ends up marrying the guy. Like I said, I don't regret my decision, but there's still something there and I don't think it's love or jealousy( I don't plan on getting married anytime soon nor did I think I'd marry her).

[mothered]

I think anyone would feel slightly offended or some type of way that a relationship ends and their ex jumps into a relationship literally right after and then ends up marrying the guy.  

I'm going to be stern here- all with good reason and Intention.

Rather than thinking about where she's headed and what she has achieved, think about where "you're heading" and what "you" wish to achieve. The Issue Is, rather than putting yourself first, you're exhausting your energy by focusing on her movements and questioning the reasons why she's moved on so quickly after the breakup. Who cares? Be It as It may. Goodbye, your relationship Is over, period.

The moment you ended It, was the moment you started a new life based on your terms. Keep It that way.

[Defeat]

I think anyone would feel slightly offended or some type of way that a relationship ends and their ex jumps into a relationship literally right after and then ends up marrying the guy.  

I'm going to be stern here- all with good reason and Intention.

Rather than thinking about where she's headed and what she has achieved, think about where "you're heading" and what "you" wish to achieve. The Issue Is, rather than putting yourself first, you're exhausting your energy by focusing on her movements and questioning the reasons why she's moved on so quickly after the breakup. Who cares? Be It as It may. Goodbye, your relationship Is over, period.

The moment you ended It, was the moment you started a new life based on your terms. Keep It that way.

I'm working on it. It's a really easy process when you have the option of having absolutely no contact with the person anymore, I don't have that luxury.

[mothered]

 It's a really easy process when you have the option of having absolutely no contact with the person anymore, I don't have that luxury.

I realize It's easier said than done, but you need to take control of your emotions and not allow others to do It for you, hence negatively Impacts on your state of mind.

Although no two cases are ever the same, I've been through It a couple of times and I'm speaking via personal experience. I wish you all the very best, and you can always reference/post In this thread when seeking assistance and/or advice.

[Defeat]

 It's a really easy process when you have the option of having absolutely no contact with the person anymore, I don't have that luxury.

I realize It's easier said than done, but you need to take control of your emotions and not allow others to do It for you, hence negatively Impacts on your state of mind.

Although no two cases are ever the same, I've been through It a couple of times and I'm speaking via personal experience. I wish you all the very best, and you can always reference/post In this thread when seeking assistance and/or advice.

Thank you, I will.

[Sector]

Don't stress over it man. She just wasn't the one.