[LawDogUSA]

Please my brothers and sisters, I value everything you write and respond to me
I do want to start off by saying that revenge is not even q consideration qt this point. And yes, what's done is done. My focus is on my children and I would help her if absolutely necessary. There are a few problems which are my driving force. I love and cherish my children. She is not afraid to put them in harm's way to get whatever her agenda is. Example; when this were starting to go bad, my 6 ur old son at the time was picking up on her behavior and began to turn on her, calling her a bad parent, refusing to speak with her, and so on
Now, I'm a stay at home Dad and she works and provides the health insurance, etc. I did work, the military and lawenforcment. Over 25 years, I have shot and been shot, had my face smashed with a 2x4, thrown 25 feet in a blast, pinned inside a destroyed vehicle, and had to be cut out, twice, 3 knee surgeries, pins, rods, screws in my spine, had to go on chemo twice for my joints, loosing my hearing, concussions, lots of them. None of this is to brag, please, I take pride in what I did, cause I'm still here and I'm walking and talking, and maybe if it was not me the other person does. So no regrets, I signed up for it. I supported my family for the first half and my blood pressure was normal over 200. The docs and bosses said it's over. And honestly, it was time to hang up my cleats. It happens, it's a young mans game. I walked away withe the Purple Heart, Silver Star, Bronze Star, a few more and I was inducted into the Law Enforcement Hall of Fame. Guys, please, I'm not bragging. I'm proud of my accomplishments, again in the sense, someone has to do it, I'm glad it was me and I'm still alive. I did it to pave a way for the future of many and for my family. The wife got an excellent job and our roles reversed.

Well when my son was picking up on the bad situation, he started acting out at schooling, crying, hiding etc. I'm 5 minutes away, she is on average 3 hours away or out of town in q different state. They had a meeting about him at his school, she deleted my emails and never told me. She went and also had me removed from the call list! What Mom does that, later admitting she didn't want him to she he's dad be there all the time and wanted a fair shot at getting "her" chance! WTF. He's q 6 ur old boy. I only found out when my oldest daughter told me. I got ahold of the school and they said yes, she removed you and almost every time he acted out, he asked for you, his Dad. Could you imagine the pain I felt!

I do not hit my wife, I do not beat my children, some very minor discipline when younger. And that was about it, some yelling all around, but not often. If the wife and I argued, I rarely raised my voice. I began taking shots from her in the form of a punch to the face or me bringing called a coward or a crippled. Not what you would expect for a 20 year marriage. I was into saving a planing money, she was into spending. At one time I counted 38 dresses with the tags still on them and we had 5 crock pots, just to show how crazy it was getting. None of us knew what was going on with her and our families tried.

Things were headed for a drastic change. I got the I'm going to call the Police and say you beat me, I'm going to run up the credit cards and dump them on you. I'm telling the Police you have guns and take medicine. I'm like, I'm a Police Officer (all my children were professionally trained) and not by me, real pros. I had blood pressure medication and sleep medicne if I needed it. She took it and dumped my medicine and I have my Father the small amount of firearms I owned.

One of my degrees is in psychology and for years I was on an emergency response team to get to those Military, Cops, Fireman, etc who would need assistance, we see a lot of shit. So besides checkups with my regular doctor, I had regular appointments with psych docs to. I didn't want to be the typical first responders that dies in there 50s.

Well with the writing on the wall, the threats, the money.... I started using my body came to film incidents, the lies, and the more I looked the more I found. Her wedding ring came off, partying began, lies, weird calls. My kids were aware. I thought she was going to file for divorce and no, she files for a civil order. Huh? I moved in with my mom Which is right across the street street almost. Every spam text, strange call, or even when I talked to my middle daughter who loves Star Wars, I made a reference about Darth Vader, she tried to have me arrested.

I had enough and filed for divorce and all her unnecessary stuff was dropped. In the meantime she moved my pension, accounts, valuable papers. We got assigned a GAL guardian for the children, dealt with that and 3 days before the split custody rule came the virus hit and now it's a waiting game, I believe the next date isn't until June now.

Guys with medical I get I'm limited per money on what I make. They went behind my back force filed for 900$ for my kids. I'm plenty capable of paying for my own kids with that money and she used my signature and borrowed another $900, so every month it her a little over $1000. I had plenty of money in my accounts, life insurance, pensions, but she moved them all. I need to find out where the money is or what she did with it, because she's not going to tell me and the court papers I have filed can tact months to hopefully get an answer. In her sales job last year she made $89,000. But yet cries poor and wants more from me? From where? She has the control of the kids cause she lied to the Judge and everyone, took them out of their school and moved in with her half brother and his family, 25 miles away, and there's 9 people in that house. She wants a supervisor there all the time and if she doesn't know or like the person, no visits. I had to emergency file online so I can at least Skype my son. This took her 3 weeks to download an app and no she says she can't located me so we can visit. I missed his birthday again, other relatives were invited, not me. My son cry's and asks for me to fight for him when we talk on the phone. It's on speaker always, she has been fined in court for doing it, but still does. She will call, let it ring once and hang up. She won't let him come over to his old house where I stay cause she doesn't know who's here. It goes on.

I'm trying to do what's right. I can think of a lot of dads who would have kicked some ass by now.

That's why I need help, advice, anything. If I can get into some old phones, the Gmail's, the computers the phone. For proof and evidence. Not to be malicious. These are my kids and I have to fight somehow. I can push the fraud/credit card issue, but most likely goodbye job, I also have that sexual harassment case. Finding my accounts and pension would be excellent. Finding any info would help. I want what's mine, fair, be done and move on with my life. I could destroy things. I have asked for meetings and they refuse. Between the 2 cards she loaded up its $35,000. I have paid over $7000 in fines. Any help would be much appreciated. If I loose my house I'm on the street. She has committed crimes. I just want what's mine, fair, and move on. There is so much more. I'm trying to take what has happened and I am moving forward as best I can. As Father's we have a job to do. I stood up in Court and said this. ". I am the Father and leader of this family, the faults of my marriage are my failures as a husband, the faults of my children, our my failures as their Father". The burden is mine, blame me, punish me, I take these failures, probably with no chance to every make it right, and I'm the one who stands before God, and confesses. And my boy says no Dad, I will stand there too and hold your hand!

My heart is broken

Thank you, Respectfully Submitted,

G