[sachaneedslove]

To be honest man, I am at the verge where you are right now. Well, we are similar though in quite a unique way. The only difference between use is the situation and second, I do not ask too much opinions from doctors, psychiatrists or other medical specialists but I plan to in the near future. I am still finding ways to solve it on my own by being tough as a bone and Anyway, I do not want this reply to be self-centered and I would like to help you out since you are the OP and in a way how I handle things.

First and foremost, you do not need people go towards people. IMHO, people will come to you instead, its just the fact that you need to change things in your life. It's not that I am trying to change you as a whole person, try to look for a hobby or something that would be considered as a distraction and try to join communities on your own. People come and go in life man, 75% - 80% that you will meet in life are surely farts in the wind that you would be forgetting as years pass by. Life is hard and lonely man, there is no such thing as a perfect life.

Second, be effing patient man. Nothing is instant in this world, you really have to work hard for it. Having friends, a best friend, being in a relationship, having wife, having kids, and all that, its a slow progress man, just like the way you age. It will never happen if you keep making yourself a baby and always ranting that you have anxiety and depression. Just think out this way, there are lots out there who are suffering more than you, it's just that you feel empty right now and you need someone or some friends to full this void.

Lastly, the answer to your question is how I cope up. Well, plain and simple, I totally ignore it as much as I can even it comes to the fact that I feel bottled inside and I utterly feel useless. I do things as much as possible in order to distract myself, and I believe in that way, you can man up and become a stronger person. Sometimes, I try to read self-help or self-improvement books, maybe some articles might help. Just don't give up. Life isn't easy.

Mistakes, tragedies, anxiety, depression, and other bad things in life.... Well these are the key components in order to make us more stronger in situations. It's just the matter that sometimes we have limits, and we stick too much to people or things we couldn't easily let go of. Best example would be the one you said about your father.

But hey now! Always keep safe and don't try to rely too much on other peoples words. Rely on your own worlds and test the waters. If you are too shy to approach people, get some balls and try your best. Mistakes do happen but if you keep trying, it will just be nothing and you will get used to it. If you need a friend, you can PM me. Lol.