[LawDogUSA]

Hey, much appreciation for your post. And a massive shout of thanks to Mothered and everyone else who stood by me and still do. I was about ready to blow, it got worse and worse. We are 2 years in and finally making what I would say progress. It will be over by mid June, hopefully sooner. I have to say, it got worse, and still does. Found out yesterday by going through over a 1000 pages of bank statements, she pocketed away thousands and spent even more. She filed for my disability benefits in her own name and I ended up paying 90% of it back without knowing. Opened a credit card in my name and ran that one up to 10g.

Well here I am, positive and somewhat happy, and I'm back doing what I do. I'm focused on this, I have a friend of 20 years who is my acting lawyer, but not on Court file, so I'm not paying a fortune. I forced her hand and she had to get her own lawyer. My ex can come across believable, but with the patience I have and the excellent support and advice from here, her true colors showed immediately. She is relentless and not afraid to use our 3 children as pawns. Just to tell you she out of the blue set up a visit with all 3 of my kids at my Mom's house, where I stay to assist my elderly mother in her tiny place. They live in my townhouse, 1 min away. My kids came and it was a sabatoge mission. My 2 oldest came in and we're sending pics and videos back to her and she had them take 6 grand worth of stuff, not just mine, but my Mother's too. My oldest loaded her car up in the course of a few hours and left. I have security cameras, but knew things were suspicious, but I had all 3 of my kids together at once in almost 2 years. Started noticing the stuff missing and the the Ex presents the pics and videos to her lawyer. But I had forwarded my lawyer what I knew already was missing, then the videos from security. Her lawyer was stunned and said it was a visit with children and she had commited numerous crimes. We had them and it still continues, with violating Court Orders and having melt downs.

So, back to me. Yes I am a Veteran and I was in Law Enforcement for combined 30 years. I'm trying to be coy here cause I do what I do here and will always be loyal here. But even stating who I was and what I did, didn't necessarily sit well with me because I didn't want to be shunned or ignored. I'm no rat, I'm loyal, I have done a lot of things that weren't right or on the books. If you did run into military or law enforcement, I was definitely the guy you wanted. I care about people immensely, putting them in jail or writing a ticket isn't a game I played. I helped a ton, and always felt a duty to do what was right according to God's Law, not man's. When times got tough and our cities wanted more money, they raised quotas and fines. I wrote less tickets then, and they didn't like it, but I'm not robbing the people I swore to protect to fatten the politicians greed for money. I have a million stories and if you want them, ask, I'll tell you. Good or bad. I needed a ride not to long ago and I spoke with a guy I have known for over 20 years, he's much younger and was the kid the Cops picked on. He had no Dad, was a great kid and took him under my wing, he's a grown man now, great with his kids, not his baby's mommas, but solid. He gives me a ride and we get back, he gets out and tears in his eyes says if it wasn't for me he would have been dead or in jail. Thanked me. No, that's my honor, how I roll, he doesn't need to thank me, it's just me. I wasn't letting him fall.

So I beat the hell out of my body. During my career, I received the Medal of Honor for Law Enforcement, Purple Heart, Life Saving, Silver Star, and I'm in the Police Hall of Fame. People recognized what I did, and how I did it, so that's how I got the Medals. You want proof I will get it to you. I know better than to come here and BS, and I'm not bragging either. Someone has to do these things, I did it a lot my way, which is the right way (mostly). I'm not perfect and have my faults. And liked Mothered and many others have said, I control the future and the clouds will clear.

It's happening now, I'm on the right track, parts of my body may be shot, but my mind is better than ever. Love computers and those things, and so does my son. I see him every other weekend now, but I'm not allowed, according to the Ex, to speak with him during the other days, violation of Court Order too. Monday is our first conference in settlement.

So I got myself settled and built cases against her with the evidence. It's great when you can get screenshots from her phone and computer, showing the control she had over credit cards and bank accounts. And how she had alerts if I used the 2 cards I knew about. Was able to prove she removed her name from the two credit cards she had made me primary, you can't do that. Got the credit card companies to admit it too. Some emails showing she obtained storage units prior to this all happening, she has 8 other credit cards in her name. My credit score went down because of this, but working at that. It's amazing what you can learn to do in the right places. Putting together the necessary evidence.

I don't want people to think it's a guy bitching about his ex. I was with her for 25 years and took very good care of her. She has a very good sales job and makes 5 times what I do now. She is brutal, and I think it's past vindictive, it's mental. So she can't afford to pay me back or even half the debt, so I'm going for my townhouse, and for my son to stay there to stop moving him from school to school. And we co-parent. She won't communicate with me unless it's thru a Court text app, she only answers when she wants, and has numerous meltdowns on there with stunning things a Judge would not tolerate. So going for my house, son (50-50) if she can if not, get help for whatever is wrong, keep what I have and she can keep her stuff. Give me back what she can. I got a lot of my debt lowers and I will be eligible for hardship and federal aide. And she has to pay me maintenance. It's what's right. I was a stay at home day for 80% of my son's life. My girls are over 18. And won't face me after the lies and thefts, it's behind me. I just want to be their Dad. My broke ass was even able to get my oldest a PS5 when they just came out in November, a bundle pack too. Oh the things I learned to do, and can't wait to keep going. Especially since my son wants in on Computers too. Happy Dad

I won't sell my medals, I sold a lot of my gear. I apologize if anyone thought my Medal of Honor was from the military, though I have medals from that time of my life. But like the Boss and most here say, that's the past, I want the future. SE is good and my lucky ass found a new woman over a decade younger, loyal as hell, and stuck by me through this, never married and no kids, beautiful too. And I think she can right a book on SE, and she doesn't even know what SE means. Just how we roll if possible. We learn and do. We enjoy life, a little partying here and there, and looking forward to one massive celebration when this divorce ends.

I write this cause one, I can't shut up, but to say thank you to everyone. Right here from my heart, thank you. Also, to learn, and for others to learn, cause this has been the hardest thing I have ever done and dealt with. And yes my ex has done everything to try and destroy my career and life. If you have a significant other, obviously trust is huge, but keep your own finances. Treat your other half well, don't play games, you want out, make the decision and go, move on in life. Patience and hope, they are hard, but work. Find happiness and put good people around you, even on the computer. There will be another day.

One other note, you can ask me anything you want, I will answer. I will help if I can. You ever need a, let's say, a report of some kind, like a Police Report, I can help with that, I'm a good writer, and will make sure you get what you need.

I appreciate the response to brother. I will fight till it's right and just. You want proof, not a prob. Don't think I will just throw out my name, but we know there's ways to find out. I'm not hiding anything either.

Peace and happiness to you all! Hit me up for anything.

With the upmost respect and gratitude,

G