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How to beat depression - Cyb3rNuX - 11-14-2017
First of all, what is depression?
Depression is simply defined as sadness, emptiness and basically non-existence of happiness in someone's life, that can last from few weeks to few months and in some cases even few years.
From some research, depression affects (or affected) 1 in 10 people worldwide, so it's not rare illness. Today, it mostly affects teens and it's leading cause of suicide among them.
Am i depressed?
I know many people today that are saying they're depressed, even if they aren't. Depression is sadness without almost any feel of happiness for a longer period of time. Being sad for few days doesn't have to mean that you're in depression, but that you are just sad, which is normal. No one is happy everyday.
If you think you're depressed, please answer to all questions i wrote below. If you answer positive to 5 or more, you're most likely depressed.
1. Sleeping problems - hard to fall asleep, nightmares, staying awake for too long at night
2. Feeling like there are no reasons to live - everyday you feel like it's just one more day for you to suffer
3. No interests in things you loved before - your favorite movies/tv shows, games, hobbies or books are not fun anymore
4. Mostly/always tired - always sleepy, just want to be in bed for hours staring at walls/crying
5. No eating - no apetite, you don't eat for one or more days in a row
6. Bad concentration - can't focus on homework or talking with someone
7. Avoiding activities - you don't want to go out, go to school, do sports
8. Hate people around you - just don't want to have any contact with anyone
9. Speaking quietly - speaking heavily, hardly, lazy
Beating depression
I was depressed for 7-8 months and i will try to help you as best as i can from my own experience.
I didn't even knew what is depression nor that i was depressed until i talked with someone about my problems. I decided to talk with my mom about it, because i know she will always support me in anything. I just said everything - how i felt, how my friends acted because of my behavior, that i don't eat properly, sleepy all day etc.
Turns out she was also depressed long time ago. We had long talk and i instantly felt better after that. Psychologists won't help you much if you don't help yourself. Most important thing is talking with someone about it and having that person fully understand and support you. There is always someone you can talk to, even if you can't talk with your family, you can with your teacher, school friends, pedagogue etc. Being quiet about it and hiding your depression from everyone is worst that you can do.
Don't want to talk about it
Depressed people may not want to talk with anyone about their problems with depression because they think they are weak for feeling down, or they are afraid of answers/thoughts they may get (e.g he's so miserable, he just wants attention etc...).
You shouldn't be afraid of talking about it with anyone. Same as you can talk about a fever, you can talk about depression. If they act negatively because of how you feel, they are not your friends nor someone you want in your life.
What triggers depression?
From my case it was loneliness - i just didn't have any good friends i can spend time with so without any social interactions depression was slowly appearing. In some other cases, it can be bad social environment, family fights, poor social skills, different sexual orientation, genetics, loss of loved one and so on...
I think that above reasons are not valid enough to stop you from living life the way you want and enjoy it. You need to step away from negative things, such as bad friends and be in positive environment, e.g your family, close friends etc. You will be happier.
Depressed friend
If you know someone that is depressed, you should talk with that person. Most people are trying to cheer up depressed friend, which may help but only temporarily.
Goal is not trying to make them happy, but making themselves feel happy by their own thoughts. They're sad because of focusing on negative things. You need to help them out by clearing up their thoughts and getting them happy on their own.
Try having a long talk with your depressed friend. Try your best to fully understand and help anyway possible. Let the depressed person think about everything and don't act like you are responsible for his life, because he may feel too weak and ignore you or just feel even worse.
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Below are some links i would like you to read:
https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/depression/what-is-depression
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/depression/symptoms-causes/syc-20356007
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/kc/depression-causes-symptoms-treatments-8933
If you have any further questions, please feel free to PM me or reply below, i will be happy to respond you and talk about anything.
RE: How to beat depression - Drako - 11-14-2017
This thread is greatly appreciated. I have no doubt this will help out anyone in need of it. I had always thought I was depressed for a few months back but it definitely wasn't severe.
RE: How to beat depression - Cyb3rNuX - 11-14-2017
(11-14-2017, 09:25 PM)Drako Wrote: This thread is greatly appreciated. I have no doubt this will help out anyone in need of it. I had always thought I was depressed for a few months back but it definitely wasn't severe.
Glad you like it, it took me lot of time to write and research all this.
RE: How to beat depression - Blink - 11-14-2017
Heh, I answered positive to all of them (maybe except for the last).
People talk about flus? Why would someone do that?
I've heard a lot of this before, talking about it helps a little, but only temporarily. It does help if you're over the edge with anxiety though.
I'll try to check out the links later
RE: How to beat depression - Cyb3rNuX - 11-14-2017
(11-14-2017, 11:16 PM)Ender Wrote: Heh, I answered positive to all of them (maybe except for the last).
People talk about flus? Why would someone do that?
I've heard a lot of this before, talking about it helps a little, but only temporarily. It does help if you're over the edge with anxiety though.
I'll try to check out the links later
By flu i though on common cold, sorry for bad English if i made a mistake there.
I am anxious and for some period of time i had few panic attacks and fears every night. I don't know how to help you as i don't know how to help myself because i couldn't think normally and calm down back then.
I guess both of us should take it as part of ourselves, because it's what makes us us.
RE: How to beat depression - Blink - 11-14-2017
(11-14-2017, 11:23 PM)Cyb3rNuX Wrote:(11-14-2017, 11:16 PM)Ender Wrote: Heh, I answered positive to all of them (maybe except for the last).
People talk about flus? Why would someone do that?
I've heard a lot of this before, talking about it helps a little, but only temporarily. It does help if you're over the edge with anxiety though.
I'll try to check out the links later
By flu i though on common cold, sorry for bad English if i made a mistake there.
I am anxious and for some period of time i had few panic attacks and fears every night. I don't know how to help you as i don't know how to help myself because i couldn't think normally and calm down back then.
I guess both of us should take it as part of ourselves, because it's what makes us us.
I get anxiety attacks alot, not really fear though.
I still don't know why people would talk about colds or flus, sounds like a boring conversation
RE: How to beat depression - Cyber Warrior - 11-14-2017
I support your thread, depression is common issue in 21st century. You must find something you are passionate about, something you like to do, something which inspires you and dedicate yourself to it. You need to be surrounded with family, quality friends. We don't have much time in our life as some people might say, time is passing pretty fast in the age of technology.
Don't make distance from your friends & family, spend more time with every person who means a lot to you. Visit some of the greatest places you always wanted to, with them.
And I agree with @Cyb3rNuX , you need to open yourself to someone, tell everything that bothers you, that's the best way to feel better and connect with others.
RE: How to beat depression - mothered - 11-15-2017
A wonderful and very Information thread.
There are many forms of depression (Bipolar, Manic, Psychotic etc), and sometimes It can be difficult to diagnose, treat (finding suitable meds) and to determine an accurate prognosis.
In terms of treatment, I believe you've nailed It with this statement:
Quote:Psychologists won't help you much If you don't help yourself.
RE: How to beat depression - Bish0pQ - 11-15-2017
Damn in terms of all things you listed, I'd say I'm pretty damn depressed... I don't feel depressed though, only thing would probably be the same as you (loniless), I have a girlfriend though, but no friends at all. I don't really mind though, cause I have you guys
RE: How to beat depression - mothered - 11-15-2017
I definitely fall In the category of point 7- Avoiding activities but by no means am I depressed (not that I know of anyway). As such, all my time Is dedicated to computing.
I honestly loathe the days when I awake for work, and that's on a very serious note. I have nothing In common with my work colleagues, nor the slightest bit of Interest In the job Itself. Physically I'm there, mentally I'm at home.