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RE: Men's mental health thread. - Andrea Bags - 09-12-2022
(09-12-2022, 04:31 PM)Jidxja Wrote:2 months(09-11-2022, 12:32 PM)Andrea Wrote:how long ago did you start? it's a process, so you need to trust it.(09-10-2022, 09:48 PM)Jidxja Wrote: you can go to the gym, or do some cardio running/sports/cycling, also eat lessI'm eating less and walking hours a day no progress
RE: Men's mental health thread. - LawDogUSA - 09-14-2022
(08-25-2022, 11:46 AM)vektyna Wrote: I've been dealing with porn addiction been masturbating daily for the past few months really want to give it up
Ok well first off you sound on the young side and are you sure you just aren't getting to your prime. How about have you been to the doctor to get a full panel blood test? You could be going through just a phase or it could be something out of whack with your system. Check in with your doctor, there's lots of ways to get a blood panel done.
And I would much rather have you at home doing your thing than now you are out and hunting down women and it leads into very negative behavior, don't want it to be turning into a problem.
Getting into the gym or working out, or running, etc will help. Your body, more your mind is craving the lovely dopamine and all the other good things associated we sexual stuff, but go for a jog, lift some weights, those activities will start being your reward factor and you will get the same types of dopamine release, etc and you will replace one behavior with another more positive one.
If all this fails, there's therapy out there for this, and getting over the stigma of going and talking to someone who specializes in this, and they do, can help you immensely and it's not something you have to do forever. Sometimes we just need to get through to the next check point in life, and carry on from there.
You got this easily, you have come out and said something that isn't always easy to talk about. And don't let it lead to negative behavior, you are already looking for guidance or help, and that's the biggest step. This will pass.
(08-24-2022, 05:29 PM)Canadian Moose Wrote:(08-24-2022, 12:28 AM)Dismas Wrote:Looks like it's too late.(08-23-2022, 11:33 PM)Canadian Moose Wrote: Hey Law. Thank you for the post. It's always refreshing seeing your posts. It's been quite some time since I spoke to her. I've sent her a message and will see if she responds. At the very least she'd be a decent friend to have. And I agree, not many cool chicks out there that's for sure.
COVID's definitely done a great job of keeping people apart. Don't let it ruin your relationship too.
@lawdogusa I reached out, she did not respond but looked at my IG story. All good, onto the next.
Ps. @mothered can you move this to serious discussions?
That's ok too, she may bounce back into your life, but for whatever reason it wasn't meant to be at that time, nothing wrong with that. You learn from everything. The cool ones will most likely always be cool, and they will be around for a long time, even if just friends.
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(08-20-2022, 12:52 PM)mothered Wrote:(08-20-2022, 11:47 AM)Jidxja Wrote: Remember, it's not her that's special, it's your love that made her special.Very well said.
Yes that is an incredibly well put statement, and it's so true. That love and goodness that it brought in you doesn't have to go away. I was with my ex for over 20 years, and though she is a major contributor to negatives in my life, I still have the love and goodness that brought us together for that period of my life, and I had to learn that is what is important to me and to pass on, that love and goodness can never be taken from me unless I let it, and why would I let those positives die out, no way. There's many, many great times, and that's what I learned to hold onto.
Awesome post peeps! So honored!
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RE: Men's mental health thread. - Drako - 09-15-2022
(08-19-2022, 12:30 PM)mothered Wrote:(08-19-2022, 12:21 PM)Andrea Bang Wrote: I haven't been sleeping much causing me to show poor performance at workHow many hours do you sleep?
I only get around 4 hours - my mind Is always active.
https://www.technologynetworks.com/genomics/news/a-third-short-sleep-gene-has-been-discovered-and-it-prevents-memory-deficits-325868
RE: Men's mental health thread. - mothered - 09-15-2022
(09-15-2022, 05:43 AM)Drako Wrote:Very Informative read, thanks for that.(08-19-2022, 12:30 PM)mothered Wrote:(08-19-2022, 12:21 PM)Andrea Bang Wrote: I haven't been sleeping much causing me to show poor performance at workHow many hours do you sleep?
I only get around 4 hours - my mind Is always active.
https://www.technologynetworks.com/genomics/news/a-third-short-sleep-gene-has-been-discovered-and-it-prevents-memory-deficits-325868
I must have the genes that allow me to function properly with only a few hours sleep.
RE: Men's mental health thread. - vektyna - 09-25-2022
(09-14-2022, 02:24 PM)LawDogUSA Wrote:wow thank you for taking the time to reply I like much of what was said(08-25-2022, 11:46 AM)vektyna Wrote: I've been dealing with porn addiction been masturbating daily for the past few months really want to give it up
Ok well first off you sound on the young side and are you sure you just aren't getting to your prime. How about have you been to the doctor to get a full panel blood test? You could be going through just a phase or it could be something out of whack with your system. Check in with your doctor, there's lots of ways to get a blood panel done.
And I would much rather have you at home doing your thing than now you are out and hunting down women and it leads into very negative behavior, don't want it to be turning into a problem.
Getting into the gym or working out, or running, etc will help. Your body, more your mind is craving the lovely dopamine and all the other good things associated we sexual stuff, but go for a jog, lift some weights, those activities will start being your reward factor and you will get the same types of dopamine release, etc and you will replace one behavior with another more positive one.
If all this fails, there's therapy out there for this, and getting over the stigma of going and talking to someone who specializes in this, and they do, can help you immensely and it's not something you have to do forever. Sometimes we just need to get through to the next check point in life, and carry on from there.
You got this easily, you have come out and said something that isn't always easy to talk about. And don't let it lead to negative behavior, you are already looking for guidance or help, and that's the biggest step. This will pass.
(08-24-2022, 05:29 PM)Canadian Moose Wrote:(08-24-2022, 12:28 AM)Dismas Wrote: COVID's definitely done a great job of keeping people apart. Don't let it ruin your relationship too.Looks like it's too late.
@lawdogusa I reached out, she did not respond but looked at my IG story. All good, onto the next.
Ps. @mothered can you move this to serious discussions?
That's ok too, she may bounce back into your life, but for whatever reason it wasn't meant to be at that time, nothing wrong with that. You learn from everything. The cool ones will most likely always be cool, and they will be around for a long time, even if just friends.
G
(08-20-2022, 12:52 PM)mothered Wrote:(08-20-2022, 11:47 AM)Jidxja Wrote: Remember, it's not her that's special, it's your love that made her special.Very well said.
Yes that is an incredibly well put statement, and it's so true. That love and goodness that it brought in you doesn't have to go away. I was with my ex for over 20 years, and though she is a major contributor to negatives in my life, I still have the love and goodness that brought us together for that period of my life, and I had to learn that is what is important to me and to pass on, that love and goodness can never be taken from me unless I let it, and why would I let those positives die out, no way. There's many, many great times, and that's what I learned to hold onto.
Awesome post peeps! So honored!
G
RE: Men's mental health thread. - Jidxja - 10-04-2022
(09-20-2022, 10:00 PM)kriskami Wrote: my depression is related to my character, I'm an introvert, I don't communicate much with people, but I have a few old friendsYou can change it! I was an introvert myself and can be an extrovert when i need to network with people or be social.
I was very very introverted, if i can change i`m sure you can do too!
If you need help with depression you could hit the gym, it helped me and many others overcome it, although in my case it comes back, i can get over it easier!
Gym will help with self esteem too, which improves your ability to be more extroverted.
Also, I recommend you a book on social anxiety which helped me.
"How to be yourself" Ellen Hendriksen
you should give it a try
RE: Men's mental health thread. - Mishapr - 11-28-2022
kriskami, I totally understand you because I feel the same. I have several friends but we talk rarely because they all have families children to take care of and so on, and sometimes the feeling of depression is too high. This month was the worst. I wake up, eat, go to work, eat, come back home, eat, watch tv and go to bed. I already tried to change my routine a little, to make it different every day, but I end up feeling nothing inside me, so I made an appointment with my GP. I'm lucky that at least my insurance is covering all of that and thanks to Insurance Discovery Software who helped me pick the most suitable plan for me. Wow, I found something positive, maybe it's not that bad.)
RE: Men's mental health thread. - Aloo888 - 12-17-2022
(11-28-2022, 06:10 PM)Mishapr Wrote: kriskami, I totally understand you because I feel the same. I have several friends but we talk rarely because they all have families children to take care of and so on, and sometimes the feeling of depression is too high. This month was the worst. I wake up, eat, go to work, eat, come back home, eat, watch tv and go to bed. I already tried to change my routine a little, to make it different every day, but I end up feeling nothing inside me, so I made an appointment with my GP. I'm lucky that at least my insurance is covering all of that and thanks to Insurance Discovery Software who helped me pick the most suitable plan for me. Wow, I found something positive, maybe it's not that bad.)
Do you have a GF/BF?
Sometimes you got to change it up, I remember back in my IT Contract days, I was at home playing videogames all the time, but while that sounds Amazing on paper, I was starting to get Anxiety/Depression because it felt like I was missing something. I started associating with a small group of people and it definitely put my mind back in a better place. You don't have to go to someone's house every day, but it's really nice to have a person in real life that you can see and talk to.
RE: Men's mental health thread. - LawDogUSA - 01-08-2023
Jidxja!
Hey just checking in on the thread. Happy New Year Bro and the rest here. Try to keep the thread alive. I'll post here and fill you in shortly.
Good times! We got this!
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RE: Men's mental health thread. - Jidxja - 01-08-2023
(01-08-2023, 11:27 AM)LawDogUSA Wrote: Jidxja!Hey man, you are right, I should keep this thread alive! Happy new year brother and take care of yourself and ur family. This year will be better than the last
Hey just checking in on the thread. Happy New Year Bro and the rest here. Try to keep the thread alive. I'll post here and fill you in shortly.
Good times! We got this!
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