(12-30-2012, 06:19 PM)Phaze Wrote:

(12-29-2012, 09:32 PM)Nacorpio Wrote: Yes, but if the guys are bigger than you?
I know I have to stand up for myself, but I have no self confidence anymore.
If I would try to beat someone in the face, they would do the same and even worse to me.

I used to be bullied from 6th - 8th grade. It was just me and a bunch of other kids, kinda being left out of majority, since we were all in the Academic Honors classes, and they were probably just highly jealous of us. As you can probably guess, we were also all super skinny and small. We didn't work out or play sports because we were studying all the time.

I guess it was fate that made me angry about it, so I stood alone when they bullied us. I stood up against them, even though I was half their size individually, and one against many as a group. But standing up is half the fight, and the other half is putting the skill behind you.

When I was in 6th grade, I could only do 13 pushups. That's right, a mere 13 pushups, and not even 1 pullup. They made fun of me. So I didn't cry about it or feel bad, I just told myself I'd come up stronger next year.. And in 7th grade I did 95 pushups and 14 pullups.
Working out didn't make me BIGGER or STRONGER (in terms of fighting), but it gave them something to talk about, something to ponder ("Is it a good idea to pick on a kid with that kind of DETERMINATION?")

Then in 8th grade, I took up Haganah, a Jewish form of self-defense derived from Krav Maga, but focused more on aggressive defense.
I highly suggest you start learning it. By the time I was 6 months into the course, I could fully take down a 300 lb man although I was just over 100 lbs.

The last thing I did was become confident. You don't want to show the bullies that you think it's a bad thing that they're bullying you. You want to walk with confidence, talk with confidence, do whatever the fuck you do with confidence, and just let this part of your life glaze over. Even if they're still talking trash about you and people are making fun of you, keep your chin up and work hard. Don't let their opinions and idiocies make you feel small or weak. You're not. You're a regular human just like them.

TL;DR:
Be determined to fight hard for what you want. If it's a strength contest, go outside and run everyday, do pushups every day.
Learn a form of martial arts. It REALLY does help you feel confident about yourself, and it can help you in real life situations as well. I highly suggest Haganah.
Finally, be yourself, but be confident. Boost your ego high up. Make yourself feel good by doing things you're good at. Learn some new things, take up a few sports, or even just study hard to gloat your 100 in front of the bullies with F's. They'll subconsciously know that you're going to be their boss one day.



Edit: And to this day, I'm happy where I am. Even though I'm 120 lbs, I can pump out 150 pushups in around 20 minutes, do over 150 pullups a day in less than 30 minutes, and 240 situps a day is my regular routine. I also run a mile in 5 minutes and play almost every sport as hobbies. All this from a kid who got bullied for being small and weak in 6th grade.