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RE: Men's mental health thread. - Andrea Bags - 08-19-2022
(08-19-2022, 12:30 PM)mothered Wrote:past few weeks 4 or 5 at most(08-19-2022, 12:21 PM)Andrea Bang Wrote: I haven't been sleeping much causing me to show poor performance at workHow many hours do you sleep?
I only get around 4 hours - my mind Is always active.
(08-19-2022, 12:22 PM)Jidxja Wrote:just very uneasy feeling(08-19-2022, 12:21 PM)Andrea Bang Wrote: I haven't been sleeping much causing me to show poor performance at workWhy you haven't been sleeping much?You don't have the time to? Thoughts keeping you awake at night?
RE: Men's mental health thread. - LawDogUSA - 08-19-2022
(08-19-2022, 12:30 PM)mothered Wrote: [quote="Andrea Bang" pid='1135408' dateline='1660908081']How many hours do you sleep?
I haven't been sleeping much causing me to show poor performance at work
I only get around 4 hours - my mind Is always active.
This right here^^^^ Is a world a lot of overactive minds, you can call it ADHD, OCD or what not, and if I remember Mothered, you were like me and things like High School, just got in our way, almost too boring, and I had to get out and do, do, do! My mind goes like crazy, and I can vouch for Mothered on the 4 hours of sleep every day, because he is always here and on top of his game! I get 4 -5 hours, my bad thing is routine, and that is key, same time and same amount. Unfortunately, my career forced me to rotate and then extend those hours into days, and then back. When I self-correct, that is the first thing I do, sleep routine. Eating healthy and hydration, exercise, and some me time. I'm hoping to start another self-correct soon.
Can you tell I have been up for 24 + I can shut up. I'm going to jump off here and grab some sleep, I think. I will post a bio of myself for the OP and let's get me dialed in on life.
This is an awesome thread, I can't see how it shouldn't always be around, it's so vital.
And to OP Jidxja, I owe my life to Sinisterly, Mothered, Oni, Moose, others.... I didn't come here a few years back in a good place, and as they have heard me say it, and I will continue to, I was helped here in life and living again, and I became a better man than I ever thought possible. They had their A game on, and never let me fall. I'm so honored.
Much Love - G
RE: Men's mental health thread. - Kaz - 08-19-2022
Seems a stupidity, but im struggling so much with my gf, she lives on another city ( 150 km away from mine ), and every night she goes partying, the Next morning she tells me she has been talking/dancing and getting invited to drink by other dudes, and i feel someday she wont tell me that because she would have done more that that with those dudes. I know i have to trust her, but, when you have came from 2 relationships in which i found she was with other dudes... Its very difficult ( we are making 2 years of relationship on Sunday ).
Sorry if this seems like a teenager problem, It really Matters for me, keeps me awake every night she goes partying, i barely sleep 2 hours those days, and the normal days barely 4, and im 20... So imagine how i feel phisically and mentally every day
RE: Men's mental health thread. - Jidxja - 08-19-2022
(08-19-2022, 06:58 PM)LawDogUSA Wrote:(08-19-2022, 10:03 AM)Jidxja Wrote: This is a thread where you can vent about your struggles as a man, and i will provide 100% support and understanding with no judgements.
Myself, I struggle with anhedonia right now, which is a symptom of depression.
"Anhedonia is a diverse array of deficits in hedonic function, including reduced motivation or ability to experience pleasure."
Basically, I find it hard to experience both pain and pleasure, I have become numb to everything. I was depressed as a kid suicidal etc, not anymore but I think I never cured depression, only made my symptoms more bearable with meditation.
The symptoms come and go, although my life just kept getting better and better, using every negative emotion as motivation, as fuel to pursue my goals.
But things still are not perfect, I practice gratitude which helps with the symptoms, but right now, I really can't feel anything. Neither pain, nor pleasure.
This is an awesome thread and one that I am well suited for, its actually what Im now doing in the second half of life here. Nice choice, and I couldn't be happier to help and participate. If i saw that right, you are pretty young, but well advanced when it comes to handling your own mental health. Im older and I experience the same type of no pleasure/pain, and I can lose all 5 of my senses at times. I probably had a lot of these things at a younger age too, I just channeled my focus very well, somewhat forced to do so and my own drive to be successful. Didn't need school, as I was thrust into a need to help others at a very young age.
Did you get your diagnosis from yourself or doctor, and do you get therapy and/or medication. You don't have to answer, speaking out loud to say this pretty simple. This may be the way you go through life, not everyone is very high on life or very low, no matter who we are, life is a rollercoaster, and we play the hand we are dealt. Depression is almost always beatable, it's definitely treatable. You may have cured your depression for a point in your life, but who knows the future and what might come our way, right. But you are way ahead of the game, you are doing great things now to control these things when or if they come up in the future. And it is a mindset, you keep that positive. Personally, i have gone through the most horrible shit, sometimes when I glance back at life, none of it was as bad or as hard, as I thought at the time. I always kick myself and say that was nothing, but in the moment, it was rocking my world.
Thats life and I'm sorry to hijack your thread, but I wanted to point out, I can't guarantee things will be perfect for you, what I can say without a doubt, you are in excellent shape now to deal with life and what it throws, not only at you, but helping others. You are well advanced. Excellent
Thats been my motto, I love people and I love helping others. Mental health is everything.
G
Very well written, I love it. You didn't hijack my post, you participated in it excellently!
To answer your question, no i didn't get a diagnosis from a doctor and no, I do not take medication and am not interested in doing so, I think you can cure it without because you need to treat the root cause, not the symptoms. I quit other substances because of this too. I was going nowhere.
Thank you for your kind words, I love helping other people and was always the person that helps other but can't get help from others, just the way it is, but i learnt the hard way that people need to reach out for help before you can help them, otherwise you just waste both of yours time and cause frustration.
I have doubts about the future, I feel like I'm a little different than other people, this is why I'm a little anxious about the future and what it holds for me, but i try to stay positive.
(08-19-2022, 07:14 PM)Andrea Bang Wrote:past few weeks 4 or 5 at most(08-19-2022, 12:30 PM)mothered Wrote: [quote="Andrea Bang" pid='1135408' dateline='1660908081']How many hours do you sleep?
I haven't been sleeping much causing me to show poor performance at work
I only get around 4 hours - my mind Is always active.
(08-19-2022, 12:22 PM)Jidxja Wrote:just very uneasy feeling(08-19-2022, 12:21 PM)Andrea Bang Wrote: I haven't been sleeping much causing me to show poor performance at workWhy you haven't been sleeping much?You don't have the time to? Thoughts keeping you awake at night?
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Do you have a reason why you are stressed? I mean what causes the uneasy feeling? or is it just random
(08-19-2022, 07:32 PM)LawDogUSA Wrote:I thought it was vital too, this is why I started it haha, and i'm very happy and proud of you to hear that you're doing better, maybe we can have a conversation sometimes(08-19-2022, 12:30 PM)mothered Wrote: [quote="Andrea Bang" pid='1135408' dateline='1660908081']How many hours do you sleep?
I haven't been sleeping much causing me to show poor performance at work
I only get around 4 hours - my mind Is always active.
This right here^^^^ Is a world a lot of overactive minds, you can call it ADHD, OCD or what not, and if I remember Mothered, you were like me and things like High School, just got in our way, almost too boring, and I had to get out and do, do, do! My mind goes like crazy, and I can vouch for Mothered on the 4 hours of sleep every day, because he is always here and on top of his game! I get 4 -5 hours, my bad thing is routine, and that is key, same time and same amount. Unfortunately, my career forced me to rotate and then extend those hours into days, and then back. When I self-correct, that is the first thing I do, sleep routine. Eating healthy and hydration, exercise, and some me time. I'm hoping to start another self-correct soon.
Can you tell I have been up for 24 + I can shut up. I'm going to jump off here and grab some sleep, I think. I will post a bio of myself for the OP and let's get me dialed in on life.
This is an awesome thread, I can't see how it shouldn't always be around, it's so vital.
And to OP Jidxja, I owe my life to Sinisterly, Mothered, Oni, Moose, others.... I didn't come here a few years back in a good place, and as they have heard me say it, and I will continue to, I was helped here in life and living again, and I became a better man than I ever thought possible. They had their A game on, and never let me fall. I'm so honored.
Much Love - G
.(08-19-2022, 08:19 PM)Kaz Wrote: Seems a stupidity, but im struggling so much with my gf, she lives on another city ( 150 km away from mine ), and every night she goes partying, the Next morning she tells me she has been talking/dancing and getting invited to drink by other dudes, and i feel someday she wont tell me that because she would have done more that that with those dudes. I know i have to trust her, but, when you have came from 2 relationships in which i found she was with other dudes... Its very difficult ( we are making 2 years of relationship on Sunday ).Brother, it's not a stupidity and it's not a teenager problem, noone is judging here so please, don't judge yourself.
Sorry if this seems like a teenager problem, It really Matters for me, keeps me awake every night she goes partying, i barely sleep 2 hours those days, and the normal days barely 4, and im 20... So imagine how i feel phisically and mentally every day
I can say I went through the same things and what I can advise you to do is to tell her that you don't feel comfortable because of the past relationships and trust issues that you have, and maybe you can work something out.
I don't know how old you are but for me, it's not acceptable behaviour in a women to go partying every weekend. screams low quality to me. I know you love her, but the toughest decisions are the best.
So my advice is to talk with her, reach a mutual agreement where you feel comfortable and if not, break it up.
I went through my biggest heartbreak, I don't think I can ever get another one worse than this.
The 1st girl that I loved in my life, and had a relationship with her, had to break it off because it was killing me on the inside how she treated me, she lied with some things and then I got insecure and couldn't trust her after, I used to be like you and couldn't sleep for like 2 weeks and even barely ate in that time period, my heart was aching, physically.
Then we talked, couldn't reach a mutual agreement and I broke it off. Single handedly hardest decision of my life until now, but it was for the best of me, as much as I loved her, sometimes more than me, that had to end and I put myself over her.
RE: Men's mental health thread. - Defeat - 08-19-2022
Well, I deleted the thread but essentially someone gave me and my family COVID before I left for my family vacation. I started to speak with her again but just ghosted her. I know she didn't mean to do that, but I was still upset and it didn't make much sense for me to continue seeing her feeling that way. She was pretty cool too but meh, it is what it is.
(08-19-2022, 12:21 PM)Andrea Bang Wrote: I haven't been sleeping much causing me to show poor performance at workmelatonin doesn't do shit for me but a good weed gummy hits the spot.
RE: Men's mental health thread. - Jidxja - 08-19-2022
(08-19-2022, 10:23 PM)Canadian Moose Wrote: Well, I deleted the thread but essentially someone gave me and my family COVID before I left for my family vacation. I started to speak with her again but just ghosted her. I know she didn't mean to do that, but I was still upset and it didn't make much sense for me to continue seeing her feeling that way. She was pretty cool too but meh, it is what it is.I'd say it wasn't meant to be and yeah, I feel you, the relationshiop between you and that person can never be the same after that.
(08-19-2022, 12:21 PM)Andrea Bang Wrote: I haven't been sleeping much causing me to show poor performance at workmelatonin doesn't do shit for me but a good weed gummy hits the spot.
I hope that you and your family are good and healthy now, noone had any severe complications or something
RE: Men's mental health thread. - Defeat - 08-19-2022
(08-19-2022, 08:19 PM)Kaz Wrote: Seems a stupidity, but im struggling so much with my gf, she lives on another city ( 150 km away from mine ), and every night she goes partying, the Next morning she tells me she has been talking/dancing and getting invited to drink by other dudes, and i feel someday she wont tell me that because she would have done more that that with those dudes. I know i have to trust her, but, when you have came from 2 relationships in which i found she was with other dudes... Its very difficult ( we are making 2 years of relationship on Sunday ).Cut that off. Even up there, she lived in another city and if she was doing that it would've been over a long time ago.
Sorry if this seems like a teenager problem, It really Matters for me, keeps me awake every night she goes partying, i barely sleep 2 hours those days, and the normal days barely 4, and im 20... So imagine how i feel phisically and mentally every day
RE: Men's mental health thread. - Kaz - 08-20-2022
(08-19-2022, 10:26 PM)Canadian Moose Wrote:(08-19-2022, 08:19 PM)Kaz Wrote: Seems a stupidity, but im struggling so much with my gf, she lives on another city ( 150 km away from mine ), and every night she goes partying, the Next morning she tells me she has been talking/dancing and getting invited to drink by other dudes, and i feel someday she wont tell me that because she would have done more that that with those dudes. I know i have to trust her, but, when you have came from 2 relationships in which i found she was with other dudes... Its very difficult ( we are making 2 years of relationship on Sunday ).Cut that off. Even up there, she lived in another city and if she was doing that it would've been over a long time ago.
Sorry if this seems like a teenager problem, It really Matters for me, keeps me awake every night she goes partying, i barely sleep 2 hours those days, and the normal days barely 4, and im 20... So imagine how i feel phisically and mentally every day
Shes my 1st love and 1st relationship, i know that if we end here, i Will just die inside... I Will start doing nothing and forget about myself
RE: Men's mental health thread. - Andrea Bags - 08-20-2022
(08-20-2022, 01:22 AM)Kaz Wrote:women are dime a dozen(08-19-2022, 10:26 PM)Canadian Moose Wrote:(08-19-2022, 08:19 PM)Kaz Wrote: Seems a stupidity, but im struggling so much with my gf, she lives on another city ( 150 km away from mine ), and every night she goes partying, the Next morning she tells me she has been talking/dancing and getting invited to drink by other dudes, and i feel someday she wont tell me that because she would have done more that that with those dudes. I know i have to trust her, but, when you have came from 2 relationships in which i found she was with other dudes... Its very difficult ( we are making 2 years of relationship on Sunday ).Cut that off. Even up there, she lived in another city and if she was doing that it would've been over a long time ago.
Sorry if this seems like a teenager problem, It really Matters for me, keeps me awake every night she goes partying, i barely sleep 2 hours those days, and the normal days barely 4, and im 20... So imagine how i feel phisically and mentally every day
Shes my 1st love and 1st relationship, i know that if we end here, i Will just die inside... I Will start doing nothing and forget about myself
RE: Men's mental health thread. - mothered - 08-20-2022
(08-19-2022, 07:14 PM)Andrea Bang Wrote: past few weeks 4 or 5 at mostYour body/mind Is telling you that you need more sleep.
just very uneasy feeling