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Could you be with someone who constantly checks other people out? - Kaylah - 01-13-2014
So, I know it is human nature to find other people attractive, but you shouldn't be so rude and obvious about it.
I always see my boyfriend checking out other girls right in front of me, whether it be their breasts, legs, butt, or face. He stares and stares. It makes me sick to my stomach.
Everywhere we go, it seems like he is checking out every single girl?
Have you ever been with someone like this? Could you be with someone like this? I have been with other guys and they don't all do this.
RE: Could you be with someone who constantly checks other people out? - htr693 - 01-13-2014
Talk to him about it, that's your easiest answer.
It is entirely natural for everyone to check other people out. There is a way of doing it discreetly and tactfully though. Tell him that it bothers you a bit when he stares so much, and see what he says.
My ex and I used to find people for each other and make a game of it. We had a lot of trust, and we both knew that if it's ok to look, neither of us would stray from each other. We had a good understanding.
Good luck.
RE: Could you be with someone who constantly checks other people out? - LindaKay - 01-13-2014
I think that is very disrespectful of him.
I mean, people look -- period. I look. My BF looks. But there is a difference between glancing and staring. I think you need to talk to him to tell him to be a little more discreet.
RE: Could you be with someone who constantly checks other people out? - Lone Wanderer_HF - 01-13-2014
Well as long as he doesn't do anything more than check out I'd be OK with it I guess. However if it is bugging you as much as it seems it is I would recommend talking to him about it and seeing what he has to say.
RE: Could you be with someone who constantly checks other people out? - Kureo - 01-13-2014
If its bugging you, then you may want to talk to him. However, you shouldn't really get mad at him, its only human nature after all. ( It would be the same as getting angry over you for feeling an emotion you cannot control )
Unto the question though.. No, I wouldn't really have anything against it if the person I was in a relationship would check out other people. As long as they don't go any further than looking, as that would be cheating and that is something I do not approve of.
RE: Could you be with someone who constantly checks other people out? - LindaKay - 01-13-2014
I mean, I get that people "Can't help it," but I have seen some men practically drool over other women while their wives and girlfriends were by their sides. I think that is inappropriate. I don't think looking is inherently wrong, but I think there is a right and wrong way of doing it. You don't agree?
RE: Could you be with someone who constantly checks other people out? - Kureo - 01-13-2014
(01-13-2014, 06:33 PM)LindaKay Wrote: I mean, I get that people "Can't help it," but I have seen some men practically drool over other women while their wives and girlfriends were by their sides. I think that is inappropriate. I don't think looking is inherently wrong, but I think there is a right and wrong way of doing it. You don't agree?
It may be inappropriate, however, so are the way most females dress these days. People complain about that, people complain about this. The only difference between these two things is that one is natural and the other is a free descission.
RE: Could you be with someone who constantly checks other people out? - LindaKay - 01-13-2014
True, but I don't know what one has to do with the other? I guess you are saying people stare more when women dress inappropriately? I suppose that is true.
RE: Could you be with someone who constantly checks other people out? - Zurchi - 01-13-2014
My girlfriend constantly tells me who she thinks is hot that's famous. But if she checked people out on a regular basis. I'd be uupset.
RE: Could you be with someone who constantly checks other people out? - Kureo - 01-13-2014
(01-13-2014, 06:43 PM)Zurchi Wrote: My girlfriend constantly tells me who she thinks is hot that's famous. But if she checked people out on a regular basis. I'd be upset.
Its common that girls ( and boys ) think popular/famous people attractive. Not really because they are ( but they can be ), but rather because they're happy. Now your statement made me a little curious, you mean that you don't upset when she says that she finds another famous handsome or attractive, though if it was a random person on the street you would be upset. Do you say that because you think that she has no chance in heaven to be with the famous people she talks about?