[mothered]

I'd say give more thought on my future, Inclusive of finances and career.

When living with your parents at such a young age, there doesn't seem to be a care In the world. It's when you become your own person (by moving out, hence self-contained) where all the problems begin.

[Skullmeat]

I'd have gotten off my lazy ass and done something with my life sooner.

[Mr.Kurd]

I'm 17
But now i doing my best to succes in my study.

[Boudica]

I would have transferred Universities and stayed away from the people that were giving me the most stressful moments of my life.
Now I am away from that atmosphere, I sleep better, am happier and now understand what's really important. 18+ is where you probably go through some of life's biggest lessons as you take your first steps away from home. Prior to that, there's no way to predict what life is really like away from the shelter of family.

I know there are many exceptions to this as some people move out when they are 16 etc.

[abraxas]

I would have spent less time focusing on finding a relationship or someone to love me and instead learned how to make responsible (loving) decisions for myself.

I would have spent less time doing drugs and more time pursuing positive habits like exercising, eating healthy and taking care of my body.

I would forgive all the people who I held grudges against and let go of the past so that I could see clearly how to pave the way for my future.

I would spend less time with fairweather friends who only wanted to be around me because I could get them high and more time with family; especially with my mom who (at that time) needed me the most as she was in a highly abusive marriage and I was too self absorbed to help and just off doing my own thing.

I would have cherished the time I could've had with my little brother who (at that time) was 3 years old. He always wanted to play whenever I'd go visit my mom but I was too busy thinking about getting out of there so I could go get high. I would have sat down and played Mario Kart with him or with his firetrucks. I would have shown him what a real big brother is supposed to be. I would have cared more.

I would have stopped seeking relationships after the first one that failed due to my own jealousies, insecurities and short comings. I would have spent more time learning how to be someone worth loving. Hell, maybe spend time figuring out what exactly love is instead of throwing the word around as an excuse to justify my horny raging hormones. I would have learned how to truly value women and treat them with the dignity and respect they deserve instead of thinking they were objects worth exploiting for my own selfish gain.

I would have started a savings account and actually used it. Instead of spending money so carelessly I would have planned ahead for the future. Instead of trying to be the life of the party and show up with cases of beer and bottles of liquor I would put extra 'splurging' money in an account so that when the day comes that I fall on hard times I would be more adequately prepared and therefore better equipped to handle the storms of life.

Those are just some of the things I would have done differently.

[817_091_278]

Stop being high all the time.

[insidious]

I'd say give more thought on my future, Inclusive of finances and career.

When living with your parents at such a young age, there doesn't seem to be a care In the world. It's when you become your own person (by moving out, hence self-contained) where all the problems begin.

That's true, and i'm not looking forward to it.

This is some great advice, though. I should start planning my finances.

My plan so far is living a bohemian lifestyle in a camper on my employers parking lot. I mean, i'd be able to pay off debt and get up and travel whenever/wherever I want...heh

I'd have gotten off my lazy ass and done something with my life sooner.

True that

I would have transferred Universities and stayed away from the people that were giving me the most stressful moments of my life.
Now I am away from that atmosphere, I sleep better, am happier and now understand what's really important. 18+ is where you probably go through some of life's biggest lessons as you take your first steps away from home. Prior to that, there's no way to predict what life is really like away from the shelter of family.

I know there are many exceptions to this as some people move out when they are 16 etc.

Definitely better not to live in a toxic atmosphere. That shit can have a gigantic mental toll and make so many things more difficult, especially when at Uni or otherwise. That's good you're doing well now though!

I would have spent less time focusing on finding a relationship or someone to love me and instead learned how to make responsible (loving) decisions for myself.

I would have spent less time doing drugs and more time pursuing positive habits like exercising, eating healthy and taking care of my body.

I would forgive all the people who I held grudges against and let go of the past so that I could see clearly how to pave the way for my future.

I would spend less time with fairweather friends who only wanted to be around me because I could get them high and more time with family; especially with my mom who (at that time) needed me the most as she was in a highly abusive marriage and I was too self absorbed to help and just off doing my own thing.

I would have cherished the time I could've had with my little brother who (at that time) was 3 years old. He always wanted to play whenever I'd go visit my mom but I was too busy thinking about getting out of there so I could go get high. I would have sat down and played Mario Kart with him or with his firetrucks. I would have shown him what a real big brother is supposed to be. I would have cared more.

I would have stopped seeking relationships after the first one that failed due to my own jealousies, insecurities and short comings. I would have spent more time learning how to be someone worth loving. Hell, maybe spend time figuring out what exactly love is instead of throwing the word around as an excuse to justify my horny raging hormones. I would have learned how to truly value women and treat them with the dignity and respect they deserve instead of thinking they were objects worth exploiting for my own selfish gain.

I would have started a savings account and actually used it. Instead of spending money so carelessly I would have planned ahead for the future. Instead of trying to be the life of the party and show up with cases of beer and bottles of liquor I would put extra 'splurging' money in an account so that when the day comes that I fall on hard times I would be more adequately prepared and therefore better equipped to handle the storms of life.

Those are just some of the things I would have done differently.

Hey we all learn from the mistakes we make, and maybe others can consequently learn from us describing our mistakes.
Thanks for sharing man!

Stop being high all the time.

Hah, nice Maybe high only half the time?

There is some great advice in this thread, and that's why I made it. Thanks guys!

[817_091_278]

Stop being high all the time.

Hah, nice Maybe high only half the time?

There is some great advice in this thread, and that's why I made it. Thanks guys!

Depends on the substance. If it's a downer, then it's too much. If it's an upper, then go for it!

[Nil]

I wish I would have pursued my interest with computer science even at that age, instead of later. I wish I would have picked up the instrument I always wanted to play, instead of starting later. It's important to explore your passions instead of thinking you have all this time in the world to get to it. Before you know it, you're going to be competing against someone who didn't procrastinate his passions and you're not so valuable anymore. Before you know it, events start piling up, life starts changing directions on you and you don't have time for the things you thought you were going to wait and try.

Lastly, and contrary to what most people will regret when looking back, I wish I wouldn't have been so future oriented. I wish I would have lived and enjoyed the moment more. I wish I didn't overthink every decision and how it might possibly affect me years down the road and just had fun. No, this doesn't contradict my first part either.

[insidious]

I wish I would have pursued my interest with computer science even at that age, instead of later. I wish I would have picked up the instrument I always wanted to play, instead of starting later. It's important to explore your passions instead of thinking you have all this time in the world to get to it. Before you know it, you're going to be competing against someone who didn't procrastinate his passions and you're not so valuable anymore. Before you know it, events start piling up, life starts changing directions on you and you don't have time for the things you thought you were going to wait and try.

Lastly, and contrary to what most people will regret when looking back, I wish I wouldn't have been so future oriented. I wish I would have lived and enjoyed the moment more. I wish I didn't overthink every decision and how it might possibly affect me years down the road and just had fun. No, this doesn't contradict my first part either.

That definitely makes sense to me, at least. Explore you're passion, don't procrastinate, but don't worry about the future too much. Those aren't mutually exclusive, in my mind at least. I definitely think you're onto something.