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RE: Relationship advice? (In seriousness, please) 04-17-2013, 08:44 AM
#23
... gosh.
You're not making much sense. It could be because you are distraught, ot it could be my English or my different culture.
Let's see... from what you say, I infer you and her are supposed to be in a serious relationship: you share money, you live together, etcetera. Yet all this seems to be building from an argument, a couple of situations and two text messages?
That's a no-no. Come on, you are adults. Text messages can be easily misunderstood, can have a lot of different meanings, specially if your mind is set in one particular context and hers in another. There could have been an emergency, or something totally inoccent. No girl will switch out of a serious relationship for a boy she has met just a week ago, so the 'other guy' thing does not make much sense from the baginning.
If she is in a flight, then there's nothing you can do right now. I wouldn't recommend spamming her phone with SMS, either. Wait till the flight lands, you are calm, and phone her, so you both can have a quiet, long chat, as expected of two people commited in a serious relationship. She said in her text "she had to leave". Did something happen? Does she need any help? Even if she intends to leave you as a romantical partner, sending you a text message and boarding a plane is NOT the way to do it, and is definitely NOT fair for you. You have a right to talk to her and know what happens, and she has a right to explain herself, without accusations from one or the other.
Every couple has arguments, and I really hope this is not what you fear, it has all been a misunderstanding and you'll be able to post back soon telling us everything is back to normal ^_^
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Thirteen Years of Service
Posts: 51
Threads: 0
RE: Relationship advice? (In seriousness, please) 04-17-2013, 08:44 AM
#24
... gosh.
You're not making much sense. It could be because you are distraught, ot it could be my English or my different culture.
Let's see... from what you say, I infer you and her are supposed to be in a serious relationship: you share money, you live together, etcetera. Yet all this seems to be building from an argument, a couple of situations and two text messages?
That's a no-no. Come on, you are adults. Text messages can be easily misunderstood, can have a lot of different meanings, specially if your mind is set in one particular context and hers in another. There could have been an emergency, or something totally inoccent. No girl will switch out of a serious relationship for a boy she has met just a week ago, so the 'other guy' thing does not make much sense from the baginning.
If she is in a flight, then there's nothing you can do right now. I wouldn't recommend spamming her phone with SMS, either. Wait till the flight lands, you are calm, and phone her, so you both can have a quiet, long chat, as expected of two people commited in a serious relationship. She said in her text "she had to leave". Did something happen? Does she need any help? Even if she intends to leave you as a romantical partner, sending you a text message and boarding a plane is NOT the way to do it, and is definitely NOT fair for you. You have a right to talk to her and know what happens, and she has a right to explain herself, without accusations from one or the other.
Every couple has arguments, and I really hope this is not what you fear, it has all been a misunderstanding and you'll be able to post back soon telling us everything is back to normal ^_^
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